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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

 
In the beginning of a relationship, if a woman doesn't get the support she wants, she then 
assumes that he is not giving because he has nothing more to give. She patiently and lovingly 
continues to give assuming that sooner or later he'll catch up. He assumes, however, he is 
giving enough, because she continues giving to him. 
 
He doesn't realize she is expecting him to give back. He thinks that if she needed or wanted 
more she would stop giving. But since she is from Venus, she not only wants more but also 
expects him to offer his support without being asked. But he is waiting for her to start asking 
for support if she wants it. If she is not asking for support he assumes he is giving enough. 
 
Eventually, she may ask for his support, but by this time she has given so much more and feels 
so much resentment that her request is really a demand. Some women will resent a man simply 
because they have to ask for his support. Then, when they do ask, even if he says yes and gives 
her some support, she will still resent that she had to ask. She feels "If I have to ask, it doesn't 
count." 
 


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Men do not respond well to demands and resentment. Even if a man is willing to give support, 
her resentment or demands will lead him to say no. Demands are a complete turnoff. Her 
chances of getting his support are dramatically reduced when a request becomes a demand. In 
some cases he will even give less for a while if he senses that she is demanding more. 
 
This pattern makes relationships with men very difficult for the unaware women. Though this 
problem may feel insurmountable, it can be solved. By remembering that men are from Mars 

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