resolved. This passive aggressive behavior is not the same as taking a time-out and then coming
back to talk and resolve things in a more loving fashion.
These Martians are afraid of confrontation and would rather lie low and avoid talking about
any topics that may cause an argument. They walk on eggshells in a relationship. Women
commonly complain they have to walk on eggshells, but men do also. It is so ingrained in men
that they don't even realize how much they do it.
Rather than arguing, some couples will simply stop talking about their disagreements. Their
way of trying to get what they want is to punish their partner by withholding love. They do not
come out and directly hurt their partners, like the fighters. Instead they indirectly hurt them by
slowly depriving them of the love they deserve. By withholding love our partners are sure to
have less to give us.
The short-term gain is peace and harmony, but if issues are not being talked about and feelings
are not being heard then resentments will build. In the long run, they lose touch with the
passionate and loving feelings that drew them together. They generally use overworking,
overeating, or other addictions as a way to numb their unresolved painful feelings.
3. Fake: This stance comes from Venus. To avoid being hurt in a confrontation this person
pretends that there is no problem. She puts a smile on her face and appears to be very agreeable
and happy with everything. Over time, however, these women become increasingly resentful;
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they are always giving to their partner but they do not get what they need in return. This
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