resentment blocks the natural expression of love.
They are afraid to be honest about their feelings, so they try to make everything "all right, OK,
and fine." Men commonly use these phrases, but for them they mean something completely
different. He means "It is OK because I am dealing with it alone" or "It's all right because I
know what to do" or "It's fine because I am handling it, and I don't need any help." Unlike a
man, when a woman uses these phrases it may be a sign that she is trying to avoid a conflict or
argument.
To avoid making waves, a woman may even fool herself and believe that everything is OK,
fine, and all right when it really isn't. She sacrifices or denies her wants, feelings, and needs to
avoid the possibility of conflict.
4. Fold: This stance also comes from Venus. Rather than argue this person gives in. They will
take the blame and assume responsibility for whatever is upsetting their partner. In the short
run they create what looks like a very loving and supportive relationship, but they end up
losing themselves.
A man once complained to me about his wife. He said, "I love her so much. She gives me
everything I want. My only complaint is she is not happy." His wife had spent twenty years
denying herself for her husband. They never fought, and if you asked her about her
relationship she would say "We have a great relationship. My husband is so loving. Our only
problem is me. I am depressed and I don't know why." She is depressed because she has denied
herself by being agreeable for twenty years.
To please their partners these people intuitively sense their partners' desires and then mold
themselves in order to please. Eventually they resent having to give up themselves for love.
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