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communicate in a way that works for our partner or for us


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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

communicate in a way that works for our partner or for us. 
 
At times like these, women unknowingly tend to blame men and make them feel guilty for 
their actions. Instead of remembering that her partner is doing the best he can, a woman could 
assume the worst and sound critical and resentful. When she feels a surge of negative feelings, 
it is especially difficult for a woman to speak in a trusting, accepting, and appreciative way. She 
doesn't realize how negative and hurtful her attitude is to her partner. 
 
When men become upset, they tend to become judgmental of women and women's feelings. 
Instead of remembering that his partner is vulnerable and sensitive, a man may forget her 
needs and sound mean and uncaring. When he feels a surge of negative feelings, it is especially 
difficult for him to speak in a caring, understanding, and respectful way. He doesn't realize 
how hurtful his negative attitude is to her. 
 
These are the times when talking does not work. Fortunately, there is another alternative. 
Instead of verbally sharing your feelings with your partner, write him or her a letter. Writing 
letters allows you to listen to your own feelings without worrying about hurting your partner. 
By freely expressing and listening to your own feelings, you automatically become more 
centered and loving. As men write letters they become more caring, understanding, and 
respectful; as women write letters they become more trusting, accepting, and appreciative. 
 
Writing out your negative feelings is an excellent way to become aware of how unloving you 
may sound. With this greater awareness you can adjust your approach. In addition, by writing 
out your negative emotions their intensity can be released, making room for positive feelings to 

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