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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

to feel her acceptance, he will begin to ask what she thinks. If, however, he detects her 
demanding that he change, he will not ask for advice or suggestions. Especially in an intimate 
relationship, men need to feel very secure before they open up and ask for support. 
 
In addition to patiently trusting her partner to grow and change, if a woman is not getting what 
she needs and wants, she can and should share her feelings and make requests (but again 
without giving advice or criticism). This is an art that requires caring and creativity" These are 
four possible approaches: 
 
1. A woman can tell a man that she doesn't We the way he dresses without giving him a lecture 
on how to dress. She could say casually as he is getting dressed "I don't like that shirt on you. 
Would you wear another one tonight?" If he is annoyed by that comment, then she should 
respect his sensitivities and apologize. She could say "I'm sorry-I didn't mean to tell you how to 


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dress." 
 
2. If he is that sensitive-and some men are-then she could try talking about it at another time. 
She could say "Remember that blue shirt you wore with the green slacks? I didn't like that 
combination. Would you try wearing it with your grey slacks?" 
 
3. She could directly ask "Would you let me take you shopping one day? I would love to pick 
out an outfit for you." If he says no, then she can be sure that he doesn't want any more 
mothering. If he says yes, be sure not to offer too much advice. Remember his sensitivities. 
 
4. She could say "There is something I want to talk about but I don't know how to say it. 
[Pause.] I don't want to offend you, but I also really want to say it. Would you listen and then 

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