Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

WEALTH PRINCIPLE:
There is no such thing as a really rich victim!
Meanwhile, being a victim definitely has its rewards. What 
do people get out of being a victim? The answer is attention. Is 
attention important? You bet it is. In some form or another 
it’s what almost everyone lives for. And the reason people live 
for attention is that they’ve made a critical mistake. It is the 
same error that virtually all of us have made. We’ve confused 
attention with love.
Believe me, it is virtually impossible to be truly happy and 
successful when you’re constantly yearning for attention. Be-
cause if it’s attention you want, you’re at the mercy of others. 
You usually end up as a “people pleaser” begging for approval. 
Attention-seeking is also a problem because people tend to do 
stupid things to get it. It is imperative to “unhook” attention 
and love, for a number of reasons.
First, you will be more successful; second, you will be hap-
pier; and third, you can find “true” love in your life. For the 
most part, when people confuse love and attention, they don’t 
love each other in the true spiritual sense of the word. They 
love each other largely from the place of their own ego, as in 
“I love what you do for me.” Therefore, the relationship is 
really about the individual, and not about the other person or 
at least the both of you.
By disconnecting attention from love, you will be freed 

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up to love another for who they are, rather than what they do 
for you.
Now, as I said, there is no such thing as a rich victim. So to 
stay a victim, attention seekers make darn sure they never get 
rich.
It’s time to decide. You can be a victim or you can be rich, 
but you can’t be both. Listen up! Every time, and I mean every 
time, you blame, justify, or complain, you are slitting your 
financial throat. Sure, it would be nice to use a kinder and gentler 
metaphor, but forget it. I’m not interested in kind or gentle 
right now. I’m interested in helping you see exactly what the 
heck you’re doing to yourself ! Later, once you get rich, we can 
be kinder and gentler, how’s that?
It’s time to take back your power and acknowledge that you 
create everything that is in your life and everything that is not 
in it. Realize that you create your wealth, your non-wealth, and 
every level in between.