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Don’t Gloat or Shame Your Child.
Saying, “You’re bad! You
need a time-out!” makes some tots feel worthless and others burn with
resentment. It can spur your child to resist your limits even more the
next time.
Time-Out: Real-Life Questions
Q: Will my child get confused if I count “one, two, three” at other times,
like play?
A: Nope. Remember, your message is carried in your tone of voice and
gestures. Kids can easily tell the difference between playful counting and
your serious face and voice, along with your finger raised in warning,
signaling a time-out.
Q: Is time-out damaging? Can it hurt my child’s psyche or break his
spirit?

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A: No. Respectfully putting a child into a short isolation is not
traumatizing.
You’ve heard the expression “survival of the fittest”? Challenges make
your toddler more resilient and emotionally fit. Your toddler is not a
snowflake needing protection from all problems. He’s a resilient and
tenacious human being, and with your love and support he’ll learn to
bounce back from all of life’s hardships.
But be careful of the words you use when you discipline your toddler.
Young children are deeply hurt when we shame, embarrass, or demean
them (see
this page
).
Q: What should I do when my little boy fights being put into time-out?
A: Try to sidestep power struggles. Avoid comments like “You’re so bad!
Get in your room, immediately! Do you hear me?”
If your child resists time-out … calmly offer a choice. “I know you
hate it, but you have to go. Do you want to walk or be carried?” If he
won’t, or can’t, answer, carry your kicking, screaming cave-kid to the
time-out place in as unemotional a manner as you can muster. You can
be silent or repeat in Toddler-ese, “You hate it, you hate it!” as you carry
him there.