The Mountain Is You

GET A PLAN, BECAUSE PLANS FIX PROBLEMS

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Mentally strong people are planners.
They think ahead. They prepare. They do what’s best for the long-term
outcome.
You might think that this disconnects them from the moment, but the
opposite is true. Worrying disconnects you from the moment. Overthinking
disconnects you from the moment. When you are consistently sidelined
from
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your own anxiety, it’s because you don’t have a plan regarding the thing
that’s making you scared.
Think about something you aren’t scared of. Do you know why you aren’t
scared of it? Because you have a plan for what you’d do if it were to
happen. So you’re able to let go and be present.
Whether it’s becoming financially healthy, improving your relationships,
going to therapy, getting a new job, or pursuing a new career path or dream:
If you don’t have a plan, you’re going to keep having a problem.
HUMBLE YOURSELF, BECAUSE IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU
It seems like everyone is thinking about you, judging you, evaluating you,
and determining your status in life.
They aren’t.
Social media has likened us all to mini-celebrities in our own circles: We
become convinced that everyone around us is disproportionately concerned
with the minutiae of our lives.

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In a number of decades, you will be gone. Your home will be sold to a new
family. Your job will be taken by someone else. Your kids will be adults.
Your work will be done. This isn’t supposed to depress you; it is supposed
to liberate you.
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Nobody is thinking about you in the way that you think they are thinking
about you. They are mostly thinking of themselves. When you feel self-
conscious for going gro-cery shopping in your sweatpants, please know that
nobody cares and nobody is looking. When you feel anxious about your
accomplishments or lack thereof, please know that for the most part,
nobody cares and nobody is looking. This is true of absolutely everything in
life.
Nobody is evaluating you the way you are evaluating you.
They mostly take you at face value. Stop thinking that you’re the sun that
everyone revolves around. This world is not all about you. Your life isn’t
even all about you. The more you can put aside your spotlight complex, the
more you’re going to be able to relax.