The Mountain Is You
SECOND, REINSTATE A SENSE OF SAFET Y
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The Mountain is You
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- THIRD, STOP TAKING THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS AT FACE VALUE.
SECOND, REINSTATE A SENSE OF SAFET Y.
You are traumatized because something scared you and you are convinced that it is still “out to get you.” This is what happens when we don’t face or overcome something difficult—we assume the threat lingers indefinitely. The psychological aspect of trauma healing is that you have to literally restore the connection that was severed in the exact same way that it was broken. If you are traumatized about relationships, you need to build healthy relationships. If you are traumatized about 183 THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU 182 BRIANNA WIEST money, you need to get really good with money. If you are traumatized about traveling, you need to travel again. We do not find the resolution in avoiding these things for- ever. In fact, just underneath the fear we often find that they are the things we really want more than anything else. THIRD, STOP TAKING THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS AT FACE VALUE. Last, to overcome trauma, you have to stop engaging in psychic thinking. You have to stop pretending you are able to predict what will happen, that you know other peo- ple’s intentions, or that what you feel and think is absolute truth and reality. This kind of thinking is what takes a triggering feeling and turns it into a defeating spiral. You take one scary thing and make it into a prediction for what the future will hold. You are not an oracle. You do not know what’s next, though you are always capable of choosing what you do now. Almost always, the thing you are most panicked about is a thing you do not know is happening for sure. It is usually an assumption, a projection, a fear turned into a terrifying potential reality. You might think that trauma is something that other, more damaged people have, but that is not true. Everyone 183 THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU 182 BRIANNA WIEST is traumatized in one way or another, but it is how we re- spond to it, how we ultimately grow and develop self-mas- tery from it, that determines the course of our lives. B E C O M I N G T H E M O S T P O W E R F U L V E R S I O N O F Y O U R S E L F Are you being the most powerful version of yourself? If you had to pause to think about it, the answer is prob- ably no. Everybody has different facets of their personality, and we act on them based on the context we’re in. It’s a social adaptation tool: You are not the same person with your friends as you are with your parents. Moving through these easily is a sign of high psychological function. We are acquainted with the versions of ourselves that our current life requires. We know who we need to be at work, at home, or in love. But we are often unfamiliar with the person we need to be in order to move our lives forward. In “inner child work,” you visualize and address your younger selves, often down to a specific age, depending on which version of you was traumatized. You communicate with that inner child self, learn from them, protect them, or give them the guidance that they needed when they were young. 185 THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU 184 BRIANNA WIEST This proves to be profoundly healing for people, mostly because we do not evolve past our former selves; we sim- ply grow upon them. However, this practice can work the opposite way as well. You can also visualize and connect with your future self— the version of you that you are growing into, or the person you know you are meant to be. Download 1.1 Mb. Do'stlaringiz bilan baham: |
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