The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Resistance is your way of slowing down and making sure 
that it’s safe to get attached to something new and im-
portant. In other cases, it can also be a warning sign that 
something isn’t quite right, and you might need to step 
back and regroup. 
Resistance is not the same thing as procrastination or 
indifference and shouldn’t be treated as such. When we 
are experiencing resistance, there is always a reason, and 
we have to pay attention. If we try to force ourselves to 
perform in the face of resistance, it usually intensifies the 

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feeling, as we are strengthening the internal conflict and 
triggering the fear that’s holding us back in the first place.
Instead, releasing resistance requires us to refocus. We 
have to get clear on what we want as well as when and 
why we want it. We have to identify unconscious beliefs 
that are preventing us from showing up, and then we have 
to step back into the work when we feel inspired. Wanting 
is the entryway to showing up after resistance. 
H I T T I N G Y O U R U P P E R L I M I T 
As discussed before, there is only a certain amount of hap-
piness that most of us will allow ourselves to feel. Gay 
Hendricks calls this your “upper limit.”
Your upper limit is essentially the amount of “good” that 
you’re comfortable having in your life. It is your tolerance 
and threshold for having positive feelings or experiencing 
positive events. 
When you begin to surpass your upper limit, you start 
to unconsciously sabotage what’s happening in order to 
bring yourself back to what’s comfortable and familiar. 
For some people, this manifests physically, often as aches, 
pains, headaches, or physical tension. For others, it mani-
fests emotionally as resistance, anger, guilt, or fear. 
It might seem totally counterintuitive, but we are not 

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really wired to be happy; we are wired to be comfortable, 
and anything that is outside of that realm of comfort feels 
threatening or scary until we are familiar with it.