The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS 
Be willing to accept that maybe your “success story” doesn’t 
look the way that you once thought it might.
Maybe the kind of success you’re really hungry for is to 
feel at peace each day, or making your life about travel 
instead of work. Maybe it’s about having thriving friend-
ships or a happy relationship. Maybe the business you got 
into 10 years ago isn’t the business you want to be in for-
ever. Maybe the work you thought you’d love isn’t coming 
as naturally to you as you’d hoped.
When we let go of what isn’t right for us, we create space 
to discover what is. However, doing so requires the tre-
mendous courage to put our pride aside and see things for 
what they really are.
J U D G I N G O T H E R S
We all know that gossiping, or judging other people’s lives 
and choices, is not a healthy or positive way to connect 
with other people. However, it does far more damage than 
we realize, as it sets up barriers to our own success.

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THE MOUNTAIN IS YOU
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BRIANNA WIEST
If we feel bad about not being as successful as another 
person, we might try to find something negative about 
them to make ourselves feel better. If we do that every 
time we come across a person who is more successful than 
we are, we begin to associate that level of success with 
being disliked. When it comes time for us to take action 
to move our lives forward, we’re going to resist doing it, 
because becoming more successful will create a breach in 
our self-concept.
In other cases, you might have heard people you grew up 
around villainizing others who had money. They might 
have said things like, “Ugh, rich people are the worst.” 
Maybe they chalked all wealthy people up to being mor-
ally corrupt. This sweeping characterization sealed itself in 
your subconscious, and now you find yourself sabotaging 
your own attempts to become financially healthy, because 
you associate it with guilt and being disliked.
When we set up judgments for others, they become rules 
that we have to play by, too. By judging others for what 
we don’t have or because we envy them, we sabotage our 
own lives far more than we ever really hurt anybody else.