The Mountain Is You

HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
Hitting your upper limit is a really great sign. It means 
that you’re approaching and surpassing new levels of 
your life, and that is first and foremost something to 
congratulate yourself for. The way you resolve an up-
per-limit problem is by slowly acclimating yourself to 
your new “normal.” 
Instead of shocking yourself into big changes, allow your-
self to slowly adjust and adapt. By taking it slow, you are 
allowing yourself to gradually reinstate a new comfort 
zone around what you want your life to be. Over time, you 
gradually shift your baseline to a new standard. 
U P R O O T I N G 
Uprooting happens when someone finds themselves 
jumping from relationship to relationship or changing 
their business website again and again, when they real-
ly need to focus on confronting relationship issues when 
they arise or taking care of clients they already have. In 
uprooting, you are not allowing yourself to blossom; you 
are only comfortable with the process of sprouting. 

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It might be constantly needing a “fresh start,” which is 
often the result of not having healthy ways to deal with 
stress or struggling with conflict resolution. Uprooting can 
be a way of diverting attention from the actual problems 
in your life, as your attention must go toward reestablish-
ing oneself at a new job or in a new town.
Ultimately, uprooting means you are always just begin-
ning your new chapter but never really finishing it. De-
spite your efforts to keep moving on, you end up more 
stuck than ever before. 
HOW TO RESOLVE THIS
First, recognize the pattern. 
One of the primary symptoms of uprooting is not real-
izing that one is doing it. Therefore, the most important 
step is to become aware of what’s happening. Trace back 
your steps over the past few years: How many places have 
you moved or worked? Then figure out what is driving you 
away from each new thing you find. 
Next, you need to get clear on what you really want. 
Sometimes, uprooting occurs because we step too quickly 
toward what we think we want, only to find that we didn’t 
think it through and don’t really want that thing very 
much. Clarity is key, because you’re thinking long-term 
now. What would it look like to choose one place to live, 
then build connections there? What would it look like to 

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work at the same place and move up in your position or 
build your business? 
Remember that healing from an uprooting pattern is 
not about settling for something you don’t want, nor is it 
about staying in an unsafe or unhealthy situation because 
you don’t want to move again. It’s about getting clear and 
determined on what’s the right path for you and then 
making a plan for how you can thrive, not just survive. 
When the moment comes that you would typically flee, 
confront the discomfort and stay where you are. Figure 
out why you are uncomfortable getting attached to one 
thing or another, and determine what a healthy attach-
ment would look like for you.
P E R F E C T I O N I S M 
When we expect that our work must be perfect the first time 
we do it, we end up getting into a cycle of perfectionism. 
Perfectionism isn’t actually wanting everything to be 
right. It’s not a good thing. In fact, it is a hindering thing, 
because it sets up unrealistic expectations about what we 
are capable of or what the outcomes of our lives could be.
Perfectionism holds us back from showing up and trying, 
or really doing the important work of our lives. This hap-
pens because when we are afraid of failing, or feeling vul-
nerable, or not being as good as we want others to think 

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we are, we end up avoiding the work that is required to 
actually become that good. We sabotage ourselves because 
it is the willingness to show up and simply do it, again 
and again and again, that ultimately brings us to a place 
of mastery.