What should I do… for “utas” Student

What should I do… for “UTAS” Student

Abdurazzaqova Munavvarkhon

Table of contents

What have I always thought I’d do for work? Why?

What should I do with my life?

What things do I need to be happy?

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Second topic is about…

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Introduction

“Ask the right questions and the answers will reveal themselves.”

—Oprah

What should I do with my life?

Expect that it is going to take a while and involve several iterations, or so-called “life crises” to figure it out. For most people it’s a long and often unfinished journey.

Enjoy the meanderings, the soul-searching, the loves lost, the time wasted. All of it will add up to a complex and very unique ‘you.’ The more you appreciate right now, the more the future will become a fantastic reality. Don’t pressure yourself to be in the future.

Enjoy Not Knowing

Prepare for a Long Journey

What things do I need to be happy?

Learn to embrace failures

Any discussion about how to be happy is incomplete if we do not talk about how not to feel unhappy. Have you observed that most of us feel unhappy because we failed to achieve something, be it in life, relationships or career,

Socially we are trained only to accept success. Usually we are not trained to embrace failures. There is never plan B for in case of failure. This means that when we face failure we do not know what to do and feel unhappy about it.

Failure is a part of success like two sides of a coin. When you learn to embrace failure like you know how to celebrate success, you will always be happy in your life, whatever the situation faced.

Awesome words

—Michael Jordan

“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.” 

What have I always thought I’d do for work? Why?

People often ask little kids, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

Though the answer to this question will likely change as you get older (and you’ve given up your dream of being an astronaut or firefighter), you may find that other people’s expectations still interfere with figuring out what you want to do with your life.

What expectations do you have for yourself? What expectations do others—parents, friends, teachers, etc.—have of you?

For example, maybe your dad wants you to be a doctor because he thinks it’s a secure, well-paying job, and he wants you to have a steady income to support yourself.

If this is the case, perhaps you’ve spent years planning on becoming a surgeon someday. But now, as it’s time to start applying for med school, you are paralyzed by the whole idea. This may indicate that the dream of being a doctor wasn’t your own, but one given to you by your parent.

A lot of us, if not all of us, have this little “should” monster in our heads.

“I should go to law school.”

“I should live close to my parents.”

“I should study business.”

“I should become a doctor.”

The dangerous thing is we never really explore why we think we should do these things. Not investigating why you’re doing something is a surefire way to wake up one day in your 40s, miserable, thinking: “I am not enjoying this life. WTF.”

If you routinely find yourself waging war against this little “should” voice, I recommend checking out a few of these resources. You’ll find tips for talking back to this voice when you catch yourself thinking, “I don’t know what to do with my life!”

Conclusions

Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.
I would like to leave you with two thoughts that are essential to remain happy. One, we must always be grateful for whatever we have. And two, we must always focus on having beautiful experiences to remember rather than material gains that lose sheen over time.
We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes―understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success