13 Things Mentally Strong People Don\'t Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success pdfdrive com

COACH YOURSELF
Just like any good coach should provide a combination of support and advice to
help you get better, be willing to do that for yourself. Look at what you’re doing
well and build on your strengths. Identify areas that need improvement and
challenge yourself to get better. Create opportunities for growth but understand
that you’ll never be perfect. Try to improve a little each day by following these
steps:

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• Monitor Your Behavior—Look for times when your behavior sabotages
your efforts to build mental strength; for example, repeating the same
mistakes, shying away from change, or giving up after the first failure. Then
identify strategies to help you behave in a more productive manner.
• Regulate Your Emotions—Be on the lookout for times when you’re feeling
sorry for yourself, fearing calculated risks, feeling like the world owes you
something, fearing alone time, resenting other people’s success, or worrying
about pleasing everyone. Don’t allow those types of feelings to hold you
back from reaching your full potential. Remember, if you want to change
how you feel, you have to change how you think and behave.
• Think About Your Thoughts—It takes some extra effort and energy to
really evaluate your thoughts. But overly positive or exaggeratedly negative
thoughts will influence how you feel and behave and can interfere with your
quest for mental strength. Examine whether your thoughts are realistic before
determining a course of action so you can make the best decisions for
yourself. Identify beliefs and thoughts that will hold you back, such as those
that encourage you to give away your power, waste energy on things you
can’t control, dwell on the past, or expect immediate results. Replace them
with more realistic and productive thoughts.
Just like a good trainer at the gym encourages a healthy lifestyle outside of the
gym, being a good coach means you’ll need to create a lifestyle conducive to
building mental strength. It’s impossible to build mental strength if you’re not
taking care of yourself physically. Not eating right and not getting enough sleep
make it difficult to manage your emotions, think clearly, and behave
productively. So take steps to ensure that you’re creating an environment that
will set you up for success.
Although acquiring mental strength is a personal journey, you don’t have to go
it completely alone. It’s hard to become your best self without help from other
people. Ask for help when you need it and surround yourself with supportive
people. Sometimes, other people can offer tips and strategies about what helps
them and you may be able to apply those to your life in a way that helps you
along your journey. If you find that your friends and family aren’t able to

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provide you with the type of support that you need, seek professional help. A
trained counselor can assist you in your efforts to create change.
As your mental strength increases, you’ll become more aware that not
everyone is as interested in increasing their mental strength. Clearly, you can’t
force anyone else to change his or her life, that’s up to that individual. But rather
than complain about people who aren’t mentally strong, commit to being a
healthy role model for others. Teach your children how to be mentally strong
because clearly, they’re not learning these skills in the outside world. But if you
work on striving to be your best, people around you, including your children,
will take notice.