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 5. Team up with your partner and discuss the following rules for parents. Extend on the items given below: 
1. Take a good look at yourself; consciously or unconsciously children pattern themselves on 
their parents. If you have certain traits you don't want your children to inherit, make a con-
stant effort to get rid of these qualities. In other words, one of the most effective ways to 
child control is self-control. 
2. Be relaxed. If you are ill at ease with children, they know it and become uneasy 
themselves. Children are very sensitive to tension. 
3. Assert your authority. From the beginning try to make it clear to the children that while 
you love them and make any reasonable sacrifices for them, they are not rulers and have 
limited privileges and definite obligations. 
4. Don't expect miracles. The rule is particularly important in trying to cope with children. It 
is both unfair and unwise to expect miracles in dealing with children. Unfair, because very 
often they simply haven't reached that level of achievement yet. And unwise because if you 
constantly demand more than a child can give, you damage his confidence and may even end 
by making him doubt his value as a human being. Modern children grow physically and 
mentally very fast. But their rate of emotional growth is the same as it always was. 
5. Be consistent. Few things upset a child more than indecisive and erratic treatment from 
two people who represent law and order and stability in his world — his parents. 
(From: "The Secret World of Kids" by A. Ldnkletter) 
6. Work in pairs or in small groups. Discuss problems of child upbringing outlined in the extracts below: 
1. Timidity is another common personal defect in children. A reasonable amount of timidity 
is normal enough. But some children are more fearful than others. Don't force the child to 
face his fears! Most children outgrow their timidity. 
2. Selfishness. Many parents complain that their children are self-centered, never think of 
anyone but themselves. Have no sense of responsibility. Won't share things and so on... Self-
ishness is often prolonged in kids by parents who tend to make slaves of themselves for the 
children's benefit. 

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3. It is high time to stop being permissive to children. It is urgent to change your attitude 
and learn to take a stand and be tough in your love.