every father should decide what is good for his children and try to
implement it with them in order to benefit them at present and
in the future.
But most psychologists and educationalists think that smacking as
a punishment for children is wrong
and they prefer rational
methods of disciplining their children which avoid smacking and
psychological and physical harm that causes pain to the child and
may undermine his dignity.
Things that can reduce smacking of children
• Give yourself some time to relax.
Many parents tend to
hit their children when they cannot find any time in their
lives for relaxation.
• Giving your child alternatives is better than smacking
him. When your child plays with his food, it is better to
say to him: “Either stop playing
with your food or I will
punish you.”
• If your child breaks something in the house, do not hit
him, because if you hit him he will feel angry and will
develop the desire to take
revenge on the one who hits
him, and he will learn that if he breaks something else, he
has to hide or accuse someone else or tell lies or try not
to let anyone see him for fear of being hit. Do you want
your child to respect
you because he fears you or
because he loves you? It is better to warn him that if he
breaks something, he will have to buy another one with
his pocket money. If he breaks a neighbour’s
window you
can tell him: “You broke the window and we will fix it, but
you will pay for part of it from your pocket money.” Ask
him to remove the broken glass if he did it deliberately.
The issue here is not so much the mistake; rather it is the
issue of taking responsibility
for the mistake and setting
things straight.
• Deprive the child of things he likes to do, such as not
letting him use the computer or withholding pocket
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