It is very confusing for a woman when a man pulls away because something she says or does
often triggers his departure. Generally when a woman starts to talk about thing with feeling a
man starts to feel this urge to pull away. This is because feelings draw men closer and create
intimacy, and when a man gets too dose he automatically pulls away.
It is not that he doesn't want to hear her feelings. At another time in his intimacy cycle, when
he is needing to get close, the same feelings that could have triggered his departure will draw
him closer. It is not what she says that triggers his departure but when she says it.
WHEN TO TALK WITH A MAN
When a man is pulling away is not the time to talk or try to get closer. Let him pull away. After
some time, he will return. He will appear loving and supportive and will act as though nothing
has happened. This is the time to talk.
At this golden time, when a man wants intimacy and is actually available to talk, women
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generally don't initiate conversations. This occurs for these three common reasons:
1. A woman is afraid to talk because the last time she wanted to talk he pulled away. She
mistakenly assumes that he doesn't care and he doesn't want to listen.
2. A woman is afraid the man is upset with her and she waits for him to initiate a conversation
about his feelings. She knows that if she were suddenly to pull away from him, before she
could reconnect she would need to talk about what happened. She waits for him to initiate a
conversation about what upset him. He, however, doesn't need to talk about his upset feelings
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