even the ten points he can legitimately claim. Of course, this isn't fair, but it is how it works.
What generally happens in a relationship at this point is the man feels unappreciated and loses
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his motivation to do more. He catches the resentment flu. She then continues to feel more
resentful, and the situation gets worse and worse. Her resentment flu gets worse.
What She Can Do
The way of solving this problem is to understand it compassionately from both sides. He needs
to be appreciated, while she needs to feel supported. Otherwise their sickness gets worse.
The solution to this resentment is for her to take responsibility.
She needs to take responsibility for having contributed to her problem by giving more and
letting the score get so uneven. She needs to treat herself as if she has the flu or a cold and take
a rest from giving so much in the relationship. She needs to pamper herself and allow her
partner to take care of her more.
When a woman feels resentful, she usually will not give her partner a chance to be supportive,
or, if he tries, she will negate the value of what he has done and give him another zero. She
closes the door to his support. By taking responsibility for giving too much, she can give up
blaming him for the problem and start a new scorecard. She can give him another chance and,
with her new understanding, improve the situation.
What He Can Do
When a man feels unappreciated, he stops giving support. A way he can responsibly deal with
the situation is to understand that it is hard for her to give points for his support and appreciate
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