him when she is sick with resentment.
He can release his own resentment by understanding that she needs to receive for a while
before she can give again. He can remember this as he attentively gives his love and affection in
little ways. For a while he should not expect her to be as appreciative as he deserves and needs.
It helps if he takes responsibility for giving her the flu because he neglected to do the little
things that she needs.
With this foresight he can give without expecting much in return until she recovers from her
flu. Knowing that he can solve this problem will help him release his resentment as well. If he
continues giving and she focuses on taking a rest from giving and focuses on receiving his
support with love, the balance can be quickly restored.
WHY MEN GIVE LESS
A man rarely intends to take more and give less. Yet men are notorious for giving less in
relationships. Probably you have experienced this in your relationships. Women commonly
complain that their male partner starts out more loving and then gradually becomes passive.
Men also feel unfairly treated. In the beginning women are so appreciative and loving, and
then they become resentful and demanding. This mystery can be understood when we realize
how men and women keep score differently.
There are five major reasons a man stops giving. They are:
1. Martians Idealize Fairness. A man focuses all his energies into a project at work and thinks
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he has just scored fifty points. Then he comes home and sits back, waiting for his wife to score
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