are first asked.
Quite the opposite, Venusians don't wait to offer their support. When they love someone, they
give in any way they can. They do not wait to be asked, and the more they love someone the
more they give.
When a man doesn't offer his support a woman mistakenly assumes he doesn't love her. She
may even test his love by definitely not asking for his support and waiting for him to offer it.
When he doesn't offer to help, she resents him. She does not understand that he is waiting to be
asked.
As we have seen, keeping the score even is important to a man. When a man feels he has given
more in a relationship, he will instinctively begin to ask for more support; he naturally feels
more entitled to receive and starts asking for more. On the other hand, when he has given less
in a relationship, the last thing he is going to do is ask for more. Instinctively he will not ask for
support but will look for ways that he might give more support.
When a woman doesn't ask for support, a man mistakenly assumes the score must be even or
that he must be giving more. He does not know that she is waiting for him to offer his support.
This third insight has practical applications for both men and women
For Women: Remember that a man looks for cues telling him when and how to give more. He
waits to be asked. He seems to get the necessary feedback only when she is asking for more or
telling him he needs to give more. In addition, when she asks, he knows what to give. Many
men don't know what to do. Even if a man senses he is giving less, unless she specifically asks
for support in the little ways, he may devote even more of his energy to big things like work,
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