When a Woman Can Score More Points
Each of the above examples reveals how men score points differently from women. But a
woman is not required to do all of the above. This list reveals those times when he is most
vulnerable. If she can be supportive m giving him what he needs he will be very generous in
giving points.
As I mentioned in chapter 7, a woman's ability to give love at difficult times fluctuates like a
wave. When a woman's ability to give love is increasing (during the upswing of her wave) is
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the time when she can score many bonus points. She should not expect herself to be as loving
at other times.
Just as a woman's ability to give love fluctuates, a man's need for love fluctuates. In each of the
above examples, there is no fixed amount for how many points a man gives. Instead there is an
approximate range; when his need for her love is greater he tends to give her more points.
For example, if he has made a mistake and feels embarrassed, sorry, or ashamed, then he needs
her love more; therefore he gives more points if she responds by being supportive. The bigger
the mistake, the more points he gives her for her love. If he doesn't receive her love he tends to
give her penalty points according to how much he needed her love. If he feels rejected as the
result of a big mistake he may give a lot of penalty points.
WHAT MAKES MEN DEFENSIVE
A man may become so angry at a woman when he has made the mistake and the woman is
upset. His upset is proportional to the size of his mistake. A little mistake makes him less
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