way, the more a man is able to learn to open up and share his hurt and pain.
HOW MEN GIVE POINTS
Men give points differently from women. Every time a woman appreciates what a man has
done for her, he feels loved and gives her a point in return. To keep the score even in a
relationship, a man really doesn't require anything but love. Women don't realize the power of
their love and many times unnecessarily seek to earn a man's love by doing more things for
him than they want to do.
When a woman appreciates what a man does for her, he gets much of the love he needs.
Remember, men primarily need appreciation. Certainly a man also requires equal participation
from a woman in doing the domestic duties of day-to-day life, but if he is not appreciated, then
her contribution is nearly meaningless and completely unimportant to him.
Similarly, a woman cannot appreciate the big things a man does for her unless he is also doing
a lot of little things. Doing a lot of little things fulfills her primary needs to feel cared for,
understood, and respected.
A major source of love for a man is the loving reaction that a woman has to his behavior. He has
a love tank too, but his is not necessarily filled by what she does for him. Instead it is mainly
filled by how she reacts to him or how- she feels about him.
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When a woman prepares a meal for a man, he gives her one point or ten points, depending on
how she is feeling toward him. If a woman secretly resents a man, a meal she may cook for him
will mean very little to him-he may even give minus points because she was resenting him. The
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