John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

As we have seen, men are not the same. A man gives freely until the score, as he perceives it, 
gets uneven, and then he stops giving. A man generally gives a lot and then sits back to receive 
what he has given. 
 
When a woman is happy giving to a man, he instinctively assumes she is keeping score and he 
must have more points. The last thing he would consider is that he has given less. From his 
vantage point he would never continue giving when the score became uneven in his favor. 
 
He knows that if he is required to give more when he feels he has already given a greater 
amount, he will definitely not smile when he gives. Keep this in mind. When a woman 
continues to give freely with a smile on her face, a man assumes the score must be somewhat 
even. He does not realize that Venusians have the uncanny ability to give happily until the 
score is about thirty to zero. These insights also have practical applications for both men and 
women: 
 
For Men: Remember that when a woman gives with a smile on her face it doesn't necessarily 
mean the score is close to even. 
 
For Women: Remember that when you give freely to a man, he gets the message the score is 
even. If you want to motivate him to give more, then gently and gracefully stop giving more. 
Allow him to do little things for you. Encourage him by asking for his support in little ways 
and then appreciating him. 
 
3. Martians Give When They Are Asked. Martians pride themselves in being self-sufficient. 
They don't ask for help unlesss they really need it. On Mars it is rude to offer help unless you 

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