them feel heard. Experiment with both, and see what fits you.
MAKING IT SAFE FOR LOVE LETTERS
Sharing Love Letters can be scary. The person writing their true feelings will feel vulnerable. If
their partner rejects them it can be very painful. The purpose of sharing the letter is to open up
feelings so that partners can become closer. It works well as long as the process is done in
safety. The person receiving the Love Letter needs to be particularly respectful of the writer's
expression. If they cannot give true, respectful support, then they shouldn't agree to listen until
they can.
Sharing letters needs to be done with the correct intention. Sharing a letter needs to be done in
the spirit of the following two statements of intent:
Statement of Intent for Writing and Sharing a Love Letter
I have written this letter in order to find my positive feelings and to give you the love you deserve.
As part of that process I am sharing with you my negative feelings, which are holding me back.
Your understanding will help me to open up and let go of my negative feelings. I trust that you
do care and that you wig respond to my feelings m the best way you can.
I appreciate your willingness to listen and support me.
In addition I hope that this letter will assist you in understanding my wants, needs, and wishes.
The partner who is hearing the letter needs to listen in the spirit of the following statement of
intent.
Statement of Intent for Hearing a Love Letter
I promise to do my best to understand the validity of your feelings, to accept our differences, to
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