2. Crying for hours may leave you feeling empty and spent, if you never move past the sadness.
3. To feel only your fears may make you even more fearful.
4. To feel sorry, without moving through it, may just make you feel guilty and ashamed and
may even be harmful to your self-esteem.
5. Trying to feel loving all the time will force you to suppress all your negative emotions, and
after a few years, you will become numb and unfeeling.
Love Letters work because they guide you in writing out the complete truth about all your
feelings. To heal our inner pain, we must feel each of the four primary aspects of emotional
pain. They are anger, sadness, fear, and regret.
Why Love Letters Work
By expressing each of the four levels of emotional pain, our pain is released. Whiting only one
or two negative feelings does not work as well. This Is because many of our negative emotional
reactions are not real feelings but defence mechanisms we unconsciously use to avoid our true
feelings. For example:
1. People who get angry easily generally are trying to hide from their hurt, sadness, fear, or
regret. When they feel their more vulnerable feelings, the anger goes away and they become
more loving.
2. People who cry easily generally have a hard time getting angry, but when they are helped to
express anger they feel much better and more loving.
3. People who are fearful generally need to feel and express their anger; the fear then goes
away.
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4. People who often feel sorry and guilty generally need to feel and express their hurt and anger
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