this way as children, so we have to do it for ourselves.
How Your Post Affects You Today
Certainly you've had the experience of feeling gripped by negative emotions. These are some
common ways our unresolved emotions from childhood may affect us today as we encounter
the stresses of being adults:
1. When something has been frustrating, we remain stuck feeling angry and annoyed, even
when our adult self says we should feel calm, loving, and peaceful.
2. When something has been disappointing, we remain stuck feeling sad and hurt, even when
our adult self says we should feel enthusiastic, happy, and hopeful.
3. When something has been upsetting, we remain stuck feeling afraid and worried, even when
our adult self says we should feel assured, confident, and grateful.
4. When something has been embarrassing, we remain stuck feeling sorry and ashamed, even
when out adult self says we should feel secure, good, and wonderful.
Silencing Your Feelings Through Addictions
As adults we generally try to control these negative emotions by avoiding them. Our addictions
can be used to silence the painful cries of our feelings and unfulfilled needs. After a glass of
wine, the pain is gone for a moment. But it will come back again and again.
Ironically, the very act of avoiding our negative emotions gives them the power to control our
lives. By learning to listen to and nurture our inner emotions, they gradually lose their grip.
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