John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

to. At such times the unresolved feelings of your past have come back. It Is as though the child 
that was never allowed to throw a tantrum now throws one, only to be -exiled once again into 
the closet. 
 
Our unresolved childhood emotions have the power to control us by gripping our adult 
awareness and preventing loving communication. Until we are able lovingly to listen to these 
seemingly irrational feelings from our past (which seem to intrude into our life when we most 
need our sanity), they will obstruct loving communication. 
 
The secret of communicating our difficult feelings lies in having the wisdom and the 
commitment to express our negative feelings in writing so that we can become aware of our 
more positive feelings. The more we are able to communicate to our partners with the love they 
deserve, the better our relationships will be. When you are able to share your upset feelings in 
a loving way, it becomes much easier for your partner to support you in return. 
 
SECRETS OF SELF-HELP 
 
Writing Love Letters is an excellent self-help tool, but if you don't immediately get in the habit 
of writing them you may forget to use it. I suggest that at least once a week when something is 
bothering you, sit down and write a Love Letter. 
 
Love Letters are helpful not only when you feel upset with your partner in a relationship but 
also whenever you are upset. Writing Love Letters help when you are feeling resentful, 
unhappy, anxious, depressed, annoyed, tired, stuck, or simply stressed. Whenever you want to 
feel better, write a Love Letter. It may not always completely improve your mood, but it will 
help move you in the direction you want to go.