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Letter you are giving your inner emotional and wounded self the love, understanding, and 
attention it needs to feel better. 
 
Privacy 
 
Sometimes, by privately writing out your feelings, you will discover deeper levels of feelings 
that you could not feel with another person present. Complete privacy creates the safety to feel 
more deeply. Even if you are in a relationship and you feel you can talk about anything, I still 
recommend writing down your feelings sometimes. Writing Love Letters in private is also 
healthy because it provides a time for you to give to yourself without depending on anyone 
else. 
 
I recommend keeping a journal of your Love Letters or keeping them together in a file. To 
make writing Love Letters easier, you may wish to refer to the sample Love Letter format given 
earlier in this chapter. This Love Letter format can assist you in remembering the different 
stages of a Love Letter and offer some lead-in phrases when you may be stuck. 
 
If you have a personal computer then type in the Love Letter format and use it over and over 
again. Simply open to that file whenever you want to write a Love Letter, and when you are 
finished save it by the date. Print it out if you wish to share it with someone. 
 
In addition to writing letters, I suggest that you keep a private file for your letters. Occasionally 
reread these letters when you are not upset because that is when you can review your feelings 
with a greater objectivity. This objectivity will help you to express upset feelings at a later time 

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in a more respectful way. Also if you write a Love Letter and you are still upset, by rereading