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In my first book, What You Feel You Can Heal, the importance of exploring feelings and writing 
Love Letters is more fully discussed. In addition, in my tape series, Healing the Heart, I share 
healing visualizations and exercises based on the Love Letter Technique for overcoming 
anxiety, releasing resentment, and finding forgiveness, loving your inner child, and healing 
past emotional wounds. 
 
In addition, many more books and workbooks have been written on this subject by other 
authors. Reading these books is important to help you get in touch with your inner feelings and 
heal them. But remember, unless you are letting that emotional part of you speak out and be 
heard, it cannot be healed. Books can inspire you to love yourself more, but by listening to, 
writing out, or verbally expressing your feelings you are actually doing it. 
 
As you practice the Love Letter Technique you will begin to experience the part of you that 
needs love the most. By listening to your feelings and exploring your emotions, you will be 
helping this part of you to grow and develop. 
 
As your emotional self gets the love and understanding it needs, you will automatically begin 
to communicate better. You will become capable of responding to situations in a more loving 
manner. Even though we have all been programmed to hide our feelings and react defensively 
and not lovingly, we can retrain ourselves. There is great hope. 
 
To retrain yourself you need to listen to and understand the unresolved feelings that have 

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never had a chance to be healed. This part of you needs to be felt, heard, and understood and