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I love you, Theresa 
 
PS. The response I would like to hear is: 
 
 
Dear Theresa, 
 
Thank you for loving me so much. Thank you for sharing your feelings. I understand that it 
hurts you when I act as if your requests are too demanding. I understand that it hurts when I 
resist you. I am sorry that I don't offer to help you more often. You deserve my support and I 
want to support you more. I do love you and I feel so happy that you are my wife. 
 
I love you, Paul 
 
 
STEP 3: SHARING YOUR LOVE LETTER AND RESPONSE LETTER 
 
Sharing your letters is important for the following reasons: 
 
• It gives your partner an opportunity to support you. 

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• It allows you to get the understanding you need. 
• It gives your partner necessary feedback in a loving and respectful way. 
• It motivates change in a relationship. 
• It creates intimacy and passion. 
• It teaches your partner what is important to you and how successfully to support you. 
• It helps couples to start talking again when communication breaks down. 
• It teaches us how to hear negative feelings in a safe way. 
 
There are five ways to share your letters outlined below. In this case, it is assumed that she 
wrote the letter, but these methods work just as well if he wrote the letter. 
 
1. He reads her Love Letter and Response Letter out loud while she is present. Then he holds 
her hands and gives his own loving response with a greater awareness of what she needs to