his life had new meaning. His depression lifted.
Martians have a win/lose philosophy-I want to win, and I don't care if you lose. As long as each
Martian took care of himself this formula worked fine. It worked for centuries, but now it
needed to be changed. Giving primarily to themselves was no longer as satisfying. Being in
love, they wanted the Venusians to win as much as themselves.
In most sports today we can see an extension of this Martian competitive code. For example, in
tennis I not only want to win but also try to make my friend lose by making it difficult for him
to return my shots. I enjoy winning even though my friend loses.
Most of these Martian attitudes have a place in life, but this win/lose attitude becomes harmful
in our adult relationships. If I seek to fulfill my own needs at the expense of my partner, we are
sure to experience unhappiness, resentment, and conflict. The secret of forming a successful
relationship is for both partners to win.
Differences Attract
After the first Martian fell in love, he began manufacturing telescopes for all his brother
Martians. Very quickly they all came out of their depressions. They too began to feel love for
the Venusians. They started to care about the Venusians as much as themselves.
The strange and beautiful Venusians were a mysterious attraction to the Martians. Their
differences especially attracted the Martians Where the Martians were hard, the Venusians
were soft. Where the Martians were angular, the Venusians were round. Where the Martians
were cool, the Venusians were warm. In a magical and perfect way their differences seemed to
complement each other.
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