others. When his heart is open, he feels so confident in himself that he is capable of making
major changes. Given the opportunity to prove his potential, he expresses his best self. Only
when he feels he cannot succeed does he regress back to his old selfish ways.
When a man is in love, he begins to care about another as much as himself. He is suddenly
released from the binding chains of being motivated for himself alone and becomes free to give
to another, not for personal gain, but out of caring. He experiences his partner's fulfilment as if
it were his own. He can easily endure any hardship to make her happy because her happiness
makes him happy. His struggles become easier. He is energized with a higher purpose.
In his youth he can be satisfied by serving himself alone, but as he matures self-gratification is
no longer as satisfying. To experience fulfilment he must begin to live his life motivated by
love. Being inspired to give in such a free and selfless way liberates him from the inertia of
self-gratification devoid of caring for otherss. Although he still needs to receive love, his
greatest need is to give love.
Most men are not only hungry to give love but are starving for it. Their biggest problem is that
they do not know what they are missing. They rarely saw their fathers succeed in fulfilling
their mothers through giving. As a result they do not know that a major source of fulfilment for
a man can come through giving. When his relationships fail he finds himself depressed and
stuck in his cave. He stops caring and doesn't know why he is so depressed.
At such times he withdraws from relationships or intimacy and remains stuck in his cave. He
asks himself what it is all for, and why he should bother. He doesn't know that he has stopped
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