someone who cares. Women are happy when they believe their needs will be met. When a
woman is upset, overwhelmed, confused, exhausted, or hopeless what she needs most is simple
companionship. She needs to feel she is not alone. She needs to feel loved and cherished.
Empathy, understanding, validation, and compassion go a long way to assist her in becoming
more receptive and appreciative of his support. Men don't realize this because their Martian
instincts tell them it's best to be alone when they are upset. When she is upset, out of respect he
will leave her alone, or if he stays he makes matters worse by trying to solve her problems. He
does not instinctively realize how very important closeness, intimacy, and sharing are to her.
What she needs most is just someone to listen.
Through sharing her feelings she begins to remember that she is worthy of love and that her
needs will be fulfilled. Doubt and mistrust melt away. Her tendency to be compulsive relaxes
as she remembers that she is worthy of love-she doesn't have to earn it; she can relax, give less,
and receive more. She deserves it.
Endless Giving Is Tiring
To deal with their depression the Venusians were busy sharing their feelings and talking about
their problems. As they talked they discovered the cause of their depression. They were tired of
giving so much all the time. They resented always feeling responsible for one another. They
wanted to relax and just be taken care of for a while. They were tired of sharing everything
with others. They wanted to be special and possess things that were their own. No longer were
they satisfied being martyrs and living for others.
On Venus, they lived by lose/win philosophy-"I lose so that you can win." As long as everyone
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