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“TRYING HARD
IS IMPORTANT.”
They then fast-forwarded 14 years
to determine how happy the
couple was, whether they were even still together, if their teenagers
were displaying mental health problems, and
how close the
parents reported being with their teenagers.
It turns out that all four outcomes were more linked with the
mother’s initial happiness, compared with the father’s. For
example, Mom’s happiness was twice as important than Dad’s
when it came to whether or not they would stay together.
Mom’s happiness was also twice as important when it came to
predicting mental health issues in boys. As
for girls, only their
mother’s happiness was found to be linked to their mental health
as teens.
They role-model persistence
Imagine what your child’s future would look like if he or she
had the ability to persist in the face of challenges. Apparently,
how you model your own persistence
as a parent has a lot to do
with it, say researchers at the University of Pennsylvania and the
Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT). They looked at how
well 520 four- and five-year-olds persisted by observing how much
effort adults put into the same task. They also studied how the kids’
persistence was
affected by what adults said, such as “Trying hard
is important.” Children persisted the most when adults themselves
expended effort at a task and talked about the necessity of pushing
through, even with things get hard.
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EIGHTY-FIVE
PERCENT
FEEL THAT
LESSONS HAVE
IMPROVED
THEIR CHILD’S
PATIENCE,
RESILIENCY
AND
ABILITY TO
FINISH TASKS,
EVEN HARD
ONES.
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