Do I place value on people? You won’t value the ideas of a person if you don’t value and respect the
person himself or herself. Have you ever considered your conduct around people you value, versus those
you don’t? Look at the differences:
If I Value People
If I Don’t Value People
I w ant to spend time w ith them
I don’t w ant to be around them
I listen to them
I neglect to listen
I w ant to help them
I don’t offer them help
I am influenced by them
I ignore them
I respect them
I am indifferent
Do I value the interactive process?A wonderful synergy often occurs as the result of shared thinking.
It can take you places you’ve never been. Publisher Malcolm Forbes asserted, “Listening to advice
often accomplishes far more than heeding it.” I must say, I didn’t always value shared thinking. For
many years, I tended to withdraw when I wanted to develop ideas. Only reluctantly did I work on ideas
with others. When a colleague challenged me on this, I started to analyze my hesitancy. I realized that
it went back to my college experience. Some days in the classroom I could tell that a teacher was
unprepared to lecture and instead spent the class time asking us to give our uninformed opinions on a
subject. Most of the time, the opinions seemed no better than mine. I had come to class so that the
professor could teach me. I realized that the process of sharing ideas wasn’t the problem; it was who
was doing the talking. Shared thinking is only as good as the people doing the sharing. Since learning
that lesson, I have embraced the interactive process, and now I believe it is one of my strengths. Still, I
always think about whom I bring around the table for a shared thinking session. (I’ll tell you my
guidelines for whom I invite later in this chapter.)
You must open yourself up to the idea of sharing ideas before you will engage in the process of shared
thinking.
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