How to Be a Femme Fatale

Part Two: 
Investing in yourself
 
Investing in yourself is putting time, money and 
resources into bettering yourself, your life and 
your future. This is an integral part of the femme 
fatale transition. 
Often, us women unconsciously invest in the 
people around us, especially the men we are 
involved with. This is not necessarily a bad thing 
but can result in overcompensation, neediness 
and dependency. What do these things look like? 
• Needing validation from others to feel 
good about yourself
• Jumping at every chance a man throws at 
you to hang out 

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• Sacrificing vital needs (sleep, studying, 
eating) for a man and working around HIS 
schedule 
• Working overtime to impress other people 
especially men 
• Comparing yourself to other women and 
doing everything you can to be more 
physically attractive to other men 
The secret to ending this negative cycle of 
chasing and depending on others is to redistribute 
this energy towards improving and loving 
yourself. This will enable you to detach from 
social outcomes and see yourself as a prize. Once 
I started investing in myself, I saw the world start 
to invest in me too. Men started courting me 
rather than just trying to fuck and duck. I started 
getting flowers, gifts and most importantly, 
respect. And I eliminated every man that wasn’t 
worth my time because I knew exactly what I 
deserved. 

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Investing in yourself is an adventure. It means 
becoming the person you’ve always dreamed of 
and realising that she’s been there locked inside 
of you all along. It’s allowing the dark feminine 
to shine and catering to her needs, refocusing 
your energy on the things that matter and 
watching your manifestations come to life.
So how can you invest in yourself?