How to Be a Femme Fatale

How do you become mysterious? 

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• Post less, talk less, be less available 
– post every so often on socials and 
when you do, make it good. 
• Be unpredictable to breed 
uncertainty 
• Practice strategic absence and 
periods of being away 
• Conceal your intentions 
• Allow other people to speak highly 
of you but never brag about yourself 
– let word spread organically about 
your accomplishments 
2. Show glimmers of a shadow self 
The “shadow” as described by Carl Jung, is 
usually suppressed and hidden from outside view. 
By hinting at the darkness, you become more 
thrilling and powerful in comparison to those who 
are constantly trying to be perfect. 

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This is the reason and evidence why dark 
feminine women are so alluring and exhilarating. 
They represent a connection to a side of ourselves 
we’re all afraid to unlock. 
You must be careful and selective with doing 
this. 
 
Only reveal this side of you when appropriate. 
Formal, depressing or tragic situations are not the 
place for revealing your darkness. 
Never get too dark or reveal too much. Remember 
it is supposed to be a glimmer. Your dark side is 
supposed to be something to intrigue people not 
the scare them. 
3. Sex Appeal and Magnetism 
Sex Appeal and Magnetism are two of the most 
poignant and rememberable qualities of the 
femme fatale. In contrary to popular belief, these 

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have less to do with your physical appearance, 
body, or face and are instead entirely reliant upon 
how you feel about yourself and how connected 
you are you to your sexuality. The reason why 
most women cannot get in touch with their sexual 
side and feel fully confident is because they have 
repressed feelings of shame and insecurity when 
it comes to sex.
Sex appeal and sensuality has been argued to be 
something innate that cannot be learned or 
develop. I disagree. I went from being wildly 
socially anxious and uncomfortable around men 
especially in a sexual sense to being a sexual 
siren. Connecting to your sexual side and tapping 
into that part of yourself is part of the dark 
feminine. Sex appeal is something you discover 
within yourself and looks different with everyone. 
Whilst some people may find it easier than others, 
it is a skill not a trait. 
 

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Ways you can develop your sex 
appeal/magnetism: 
• Practice mirror work. Mirror Work was a 
technique developed by Louise Hay as a 
gateway into the inner psyche. It involves 
saying affirmations to yourself, examining 
your features, dancing, being naked, all 
while looking in the mirror. It is a 
transformative experience and positively 
impacts your sensual and sexual energy. 
• Decide which features you like about 
yourself and capitalise on them. Are your 
eyes your favourite part of your face?