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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

pressure on a man to make him the only source of love and support. When a woman's wave 
crashes and her partner is in his cave, it is essential that she have other sources of support. 
Otherwise she can't help but feel powerless and resent her partner. 
 
HOW MONEY CAN CREATE PROBLEMS 
 
Chris said, "I am completely confused. When we got married we were poor. We both worked 
hard and we barely had enough money for the rent. Sometimes my wife, Pam, would complain 
about how hard her life was. I could understand it. But now we are rich. We both have 
successful careers. How can she still be unhappy and complain? Other women would give 
anything to be in her situation. All we do is fight. We were happier when we were poor; now 
we want a divorce." 
 
Chris did not understand that women are like waves. When he married Pam, from time to time 
her wave would crash. At those times he would listen and understand her unhappiness. It was 
easy for him to validate her negative feelings because he shared them. From his perspective she 
had a good reason to be upset-they didn't have a lot of money. 
 
Money Doesn't Fulfill Emotional Needs 
 
Martians tend to think money is the solution to all problems. When Chris and Pam were poor 
and struggling to make ends meet, he would listen and empathize with her pain and resolve to 
make more money so she wouldn't be unhappy. Pam felt that he really cared. 
 
But as their life improved financially she continued to get upset from time to time. He couldn't 
understand why she still wasn't happy. He thought she should be happy all the time because 
they were so rich. Pam felt that he didn't care about her. 
 

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