man feels admired when she is happily amazed by his unique characteristics or talents, which
may include humor, strength, persistence, integrity, honesty, romance, kindness, love,
understanding, and other socalled old-fashioned virtues. When a man feels admired, he feels
secure enough to devote himself to his woman and adore her.
5. She Needs Validation and He Needs Approval
When a man does not object to or argue with a woman's feelings and wants but instead accepts
and confirms their validity, a woman truly feels loved because her fifth primary need is
fulfilled. A man's validating attitude confirms a woman's right to feel the way she does. (It is
important to remember one can validate her point of view while having a different point of
view.) When a man learns how to let a woman know that he has this validating attitude, he is
assured of getting the approval that he primarily needs.
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Deep inside, every man wants to be his woman's hero or knight in shining armor. The signal
that he has passed her tests is her approval. A woman's approving attitude acknowledges the
goodness in a man and expresses overall satisfaction with him. (Remember, giving approval to
a man doesn't always mean agreeing with him.) An approving attitude recognizes or looks for
the good reasons behind what he does. When he receives the approval he needs, it becomes
easier for him to validate her feelings.
6. She Needs Reassurance and He Needs Encouragement
When a man repeatedly shows that he cares, understands, respects, validates. and is devoted to
his partner, her primary need to be reassured is fulfilled. A reassuring attitude tells a woman
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