John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

of love. Men also need caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance. 
What Is meant by "primary need" is that fulfilling a primary need is required before one is able 
fully to receive and appreciate the other kinds of love. 
 
A man becomes fully receptive to and appreciative of the six kinds of love primarily needed by 
women (caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance) when his own 
primary needs are first fulfilled. Likewise a woman needs trust, acceptance, appreciation, 
admiration, approval, and encouragement. But before she can truly value and appreciate these 
kinds of love, her primary needs first must be fulfilled. 
 
Understanding the primary kinds of love that your partner needs is a powerful secret for 
improving relationships on Earth. Remembering that men are from Mars will help you 
remember and accept that men have different primary love needs. 
 
It's easy for a woman to give what she needs and forget that her favorite Martian may need 
something else. Likewise men tend to focus on their needs, losing track of the fact that the kind 
of love they need is not always appropriate for or supportive of their favorite Venusian. 
 
The most powerful and practical aspect of this new understanding of love is that these different 
kinds of love are reciprocal. For example, when a Martian expresses his caring and 
understanding, a Venusian automatically begins to reciprocate and return to him the trust and 
acceptance that he primarily needs. The same thing happens when a Venusian expresses her 
trust-a Martian automatically will begin to reciprocate with the caring she needs. 
 
In the following six sections we will define the twelve kinds of love in practical terms and