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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

she deserves when she needs it the most. 


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Chapter 8 
 
Discovering Our Different 
Emotional Needs 
 
Men and women generally are unaware that they have different emotional needs. As a result 
they do not instinctively know how to support each other. Men typically give in relationships 
what men want, while women give what women want. Each mistakenly assumes that the other 
has the same needs and desires. As a result they both end up dissatisfied and resentful. 
 
Both men and women feel they give and give but do not get back. They feel their love is 
unacknowledged and unappreciated. The truth is they are both giving love but not in the 
desired manner. 
 
For example, a woman thinks she is being loving when she asks a lot of caring questions or 
expresses concern. As we have discussed before, this can be very annoying to a man. He may 
start to feel controlled and want space. She is confused, because if she were offered this kind of 
support she would be appreciative. Her efforts to be loving are at best ignored and at worst 
annoying. 
 
Similarly, men think they are being loving, but the way they express their love may make a 
woman feel invalidated and unsupported. For example, when a woman gets upset, he thinks he 
is loving and supporting her by making comments that minimize that importance of her 
problems. He may say "Don't worry, It's not such a big deal." Or he may completely ignore her, 
assuming he is giving her a lot of "space" to cool off and go into her cave. What he thinks is 
support makes her feel minimized, unloved, and ignored. 
 

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