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Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

 
HEALING NEGETAVE FEELINGS 
 


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Understanding and accepting another's negative feelings are difficult, if your own negative 
feelings have not been heard and supported. The more we are able to heal our own unresolved 
feelings from childhood the easier it is responsibly to share our feelings and to listen to our 
partner's feelings without being hurt, impatient, frustrated, or offended. 
 
The more resistance you have to feeling your inner pain, the more resistance you will have to 
listening to the feelings of others. If you feel impatient and intolerant when others express their 
childlike feelings, then this is an indicator of how you treat yourself. 
 
To retrain ourselves we must re-parent ourselves. We must acknowledge that there is an 
emotional person inside us who gets upset even when our rational adult mind says there is no 
reason to be upset. We must isolate that emotional part of our self and become a loving parent 
to it. We need to ask ourselves "What's the matter? Are you hurt? What are you feeling? What 
happened to upset you? What are you angry about? What makes you sad? What are you afraid 
of? What do you want?" 
 
When we listen to our feelings with compassion, our negative feelings quite miraculously are 
healed, and we are able to respond to situations in a much more loving and respectful way. By 
understanding our childlike feelings we automatically open a door for loving feelings to 
permeate what we say. 
 
If as children our inner emotions had been repeatedly heard and validated in a loving way
then as adults we wouldn't get stuck in negative emotions. But most of us weren't supported 

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