thinks he is too busy don't try to convince him that you are more busy. Avoid giving him
reasons why he should do it. Remember, you are just asking and not demanding.
If he continues to resist then, practice step two and graciously accept his rejection. This is not
the time to share how disappointed you are. Be assured that if you can let go at this time, he
will remember how loving you were and be more willing to support you next time.
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As you progress you will experience greater success in asking for and getting his support. Even
if you are practicing the pregnant pause of step three, it is still necessary to continue practicing
steps one and two. It is always important that you continue to ask correctly for the little things
as well as graciously accept his rejections.
WHY MEN ARE SO SENSITIVE
You may be asking yourself why men are so sensitive about being asked for support. It is not
because men are lazy but because men have so much need to feel accepted. Any request to be
more or to give more might instead give the message that he is not accepted just the way he is.
Just as a woman is more sensitive about being heard and feeling understood when she is
sharing her feelings, a man is more sensitive about being accepted just the way he is. Any
attempt to improve him makes him feel as though you are trying to change him because he is
not good enough.
On Mars, the motto is "Don't fix it unless it is broken." When a man feels a woman wanting
more, and that she is trying to change him, he receives the message that she feels he is broken;
naturally he doesn't feel loved just the way he is.
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