to get what you need.
7. You feel confident and assured that your partner loves you and suddenly you feel
desperate and needy.
8. You are generous with your love, and then suddenly you become withholding, judgmental, critical,
angry, or controlling.
9. You are attracted to your partner, and then when he or she makes a commitment you lose your
attraction or you find others more attractive.
10. You want to have sex with your partner, but when he or she wants it, you don't want it.
11. You feel good about yourself and your life and then, suddenly, you begin feeling unworthy,
abandoned, and inadequate.
12. You have a wonderful day and look forward to seeing your partner, but when you see him or her,
something that your partner says makes you feel disappointed, depressed, repelled, tired, or emotionally
distant.
Maybe you have noticed your partner going through some of these changes as well. Take a
moment to reread the above list, thinking about how your partner may suddenly lose his or her
ability to give you the love you deserve. Probably you have experienced his or ber sudden
shifts at times. It is very common for two people who are madly in love one day to hate each
other or fight the very next day.
These sudden shifts are confusing. Yet they are common. If we don't understand why they
happen we may think we are going crazy, or we may mistakenly conclude that our love has
died. Fortunately there is an explanation.
Love brings up our unresolved feelings. One day we are feeling loved, and the next day we are
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