John Gray – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Scanned by nova scanner: Canoscan D1250 U2f software: Omnipage Pro 9 Date: 28 August 2002 Proofed by

focused on solving this one problem that he temporarily loses awareness of everything else. 
Other problems and responsibilities fade into the background. 
 
At such times, he becomes increasingly distant, forgetful, unresponsive, and preoccupied in his 
relationships. For example, when having a conversation with him at home, it seems as if only 5 
percent of his mind is available for the relationship while the other 95 percent is still at work. 
His full awareness is not present because he is mulling over his problem, hoping to find a 
solution. The more stressed he is the more gripped by the problem he will be. At such times he 
is incapable of giving a woman the attention and feeling that she normally receives and 
certainly deserves. Flis mind is preoccupied, and he is powerless to release it. If, however, he 
can find a solution, instantly he Will feel much better and come out of his cave; suddenly he is 
available for being in a relationship again. 
 
However, if he cannot find a solution to his problem, then he remains stuck in the cave. To get 
unstuck he is drawn to solving little problems, like reading the news, watching TV, driving his 
car, doing physical exercise, watching a football game, playing basketball, and so forth. Any 
challenging activity that initially requires only 5 percent of his mind can assist him in 
forgetting his problems and becoming unstuck. Then the next day he can redirect his focus to 
his problem with greater success. 
 
Let's explore in greater detail a few examples. Jim commonly uses reading the newspaper to 
forget his problems. When he reads the paper he is no longer being confronted with the 
problems of his day. With the 5 percent of his mind that is not focused on his work problems,