order when she randomly changes from one problem to another. After she has shared three or
four problems he becomes extremely frustrated and confused trying logically to relate these
problems.
Another reason a man may resist listening is that he is looking for the bottom line. He cannot
begin formulating his solution until he knows the outcome. The more details she gives the
more he is frustrated while listening. His frustration is lessened if he can remember that she is
greatly benefiting by talking about the details. If he can remember that talking in detail is
helping her to feel good, then he can relax. Just as a man is fulfilled through working out the
intricate details of solving a problem, a woman is fulfilled through talking about the details of
her problems.
Something a woman can do to make it a little easier for a man is to let him know in advance the
outcome of the story and then go back and give the details. Avoid keeping him in suspense.
Women commonly enjoy letting the suspense build because it brings more feeling into the
story. Another woman appreciates this build-up, but a man can be easily frustrated.
The degree to which a man does not understand a woman is the degree to which he will resist
her when she is talking about problems. As a man learns more how to fulfill a woman and
provide her emotional support he discovers that listening is not so difficult. More important, if
a woman can remind a man that she just wants to talk about her problems and that he doesn't
have to solve any of them, it can help him to relax and listen.
HOW THE MARTIANS AND VENUSIANS FOUND PEACE
The Martians and Venusians lived together in peace because they were able to respect their
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