about problems.
After the Martians learned how to listen they made a most amazing discovery. They began to
realize that listening to a Venusian talk about problems could actually help them come out of
their caves in the same way as watching the news on TV or reading a newspaper.
Similarly, as men learn to listen without feeling blamed or responsible, listening becomes
much easier. As a man gets good at listening, he realizes that listening can be an excellent way
to forget the problems of his day as well as bring a lot of fulfillment to his partner. But on days
when he is really stressed he may need to. be in his cave and slowly come out by some other
distraction, like the news or a competitive sport.
WHAT THE VENUSIANS LEARNED
The Venusians also found peace of mind when they finally understood that a Martian going
into his cave was not a sign that he didn't love her as much. They learned to be more accepting
of him at these times because he was experiencing a lot of stress.
The Venusians were not offended when Martians were easily distracted. When a Venusian
talked and a Martian became distracted, she would very politely stop talking, stand there, and
wait for him to notice. Then she would begin talking again. She understood that sometimes it
was hard for him to give his full attention. The Venusians discovered that by asking for the
Martians' attention in a relaxed and accepting manner the Martians were happy to redirect their
attention.
When the Martians were completely preoccupied and in their caves, the Venusians also did not
take it personally. They learned that this was not the time to have intimate conversations but a
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