went through a transformation and began building spaceships.
WHEN THE VENUSIAN IS READY THE MARTIAN WILL APPEAR
When a woman realizes that she truly deserves to be loved, she is opening the door for a man to
give to her. But when it takes her ten years of over-giving in a marriage to realize that she
deserves more, ironically, she feels like closing the door and not giving him the chance. She
may feel something like this: "I have given to you and you have ignored me. You had your
chance. I deserve better. I can't trust you. I am too tired, I have nothing left to give. I will not let
you hurt me again."
Repeatedly, when this is the case, I have assured women that they don't have to give more to
have a better relationship. Their partner actually will give them more if they give less. When a
man has been ignoring her needs, it is as though they have both been asleep. When she wakes
up and remembers her needs, he also wakes up and wants to give her more.
Predictably, her partner will wake up from his passive state and truly make many of the
changes she requires. When she is no longer giving too much, because she is feeling worthy
inside herself, he comes out of his cave and starts building spaceships to come and make her
happy. It may take him a while actually to learn to give her more, but the most important step is
taken-he is aware that he has neglected her and he wants to change.
It also works the other way around. Usually when a man realizes that he is unhappy and wants
more romance and love in his life, his wife will suddenly begin to open up and love him again.
The walls of resentment begin to melt, and love comes back to life. If there has been a lot of
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