inadequacy, he naturally is going to avoid any unnecessary risks.
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Ironically, when a man really cares a lot his fear of failure increases, and he gives less. To avoid
failure he stops giving to the people he wants to give to the most.
When a man is insecure he may compensate by not caring about anybody except himself. His
most automatic defensive response is to say, "I don't care." For this reason, the Martians did not
let themselves feel or care too much for others. By becoming successful and powerful they
finally realized that they were good enough and that they could succeed in giving. They then
discovered the Venusians.
Although they had always been good enough, the process of proving their power prepared
them for the wisdom of self-esteem. Through becoming successful and then looking back, they
realized that their every failure was necessary to achieve their later successes. Every mistake
had taught them a very important lesson rise~ to achieve their goals. Thus they realized they
had always been good enough.
It Is OK to Make Mistakes
The first step for a man in learning how to give more is to realize that it is OK to make mistakes
and it is OK to fail and that he doesn't have to have all the answers.
I remember the story of a woman who complained that her partner would never make a
commitment to marriage. To her it seemed that he did not care as much as she did. One day,
however, she happened to say that she was so happy being with him. Even if they were poor,
she would want to be with him. The next day he proposed. He needed the acceptance and
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