their real and intended meaning. Each translation also contains a hint of how she wants him to
respond.
You see, when a Venusian is upset she not only uses generalities, and so forth, but also is
asking for a particular kind of support. She doesn't directly ask for that support because on
Venus everyone knew that dramatic language implied a particular request.
In each of the translations this hidden request for support is revealed. If a man listening to a
woman can recognize the implied request and respond accordingly, she will feel truly heard
and loved.
The Venusian/Martinn Phrase Dictionary
"We never go out" translated into Martian means "I feel like going out and doing something
together. We always have such a fun time, and I love being with you. What do you think?
Would you take me out to dinner? It has been a few days since we went out."
Without this translation, when a woman says "We never go out" a man may hear "You are not
doing your job. What a disappointment you have turned out to be. We never do anything
together anymore because you are lazy, unromantic, and just boring."
"Everyone ignores me" translated into Martian means "Today, I am feeling ignored and
unacknowledged. I feel as though nobody sees me. Of course I'm sure some people see me, but
they don't seem to care about me. I suppose I am also disappointed that you have been so busy
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lately. I really do appreciate how hard you are working and sometimes I start to feel like I am
not important to you. I am afraid your work is more important than me. Would you give me a
hug and tell me how special I am to you?"
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